Right now there is someone saying “well of course I wouldn’t charge my friends for …(food, services, phone calls, etc).” But that’s not what I mean!
By don’t charge, I mean don’t turn a bad situation into a worse situation. While everyone needs to vent sometimes, there is a time and a place for it. Plus its just a drag when someone is constantly telling you about how incredibly horrible their situation is. Talk about something fun!
You can call it anything you like, the charge, fire, the power behind, anything. Regardless of what you call it, its the charge or the feeling you get when you get people on your side. To agree that something is horrible and then add on to it with their own ideas on the matter.
At the time, it might feel great to just tell everyone you see that “the weather is so horrible, your customers are rude, and your dog ate your homework.” As soon as it slips out of your mouth, however, you have just charged your friend. Now she can go off on a rant about the same things. Before you know it, its been an hour, nothing has been accomplished and both of you are in bad moods for the day.
Who wants to do that?!
When things get rough, take a moment to breathe. Do you really need to go off and tell everyone about that situation? Or can you just fix it (if needed in said situation) and then move on with the rest of your day?
Imagine if you didn’t charge your friends. Imagine instead you, stuck to the facts of the matter, got it all out, and then moved on. You wouldn’t harm anyone’s good mood, you wouldn’t make your mood worse (you might even make it better).
Don’t stoke the fire. Don’t charge your friends.
Let it go and be happy!